I don’t think it will happen to me.

Last week, I had the chance to talk to a women’s club about general safety and awareness. The talk went great and was well received. When I arrived, I asked how long they wanted me to talk. I have to ask this because I will talk for hours if someone doesn’t stop me. They president of the group said that a half hour would be good.

After a brief overview, I began talking about general safety tips and how to make safety a habit. As the talk went on, I’ll talk more about some of the great questions they asked in other posts, one of the ladies relayed the following story.

About 10 years ago, she lived in one of the sleepy beach communities, Indian Harbour Beach, in our county. One night she was sleeping around 1:00 am when her young daughter had opened the backdoor to let their dog out and must have forgotten to lock the door when the dog came in. Soon after, she was awoken by an unknown male crouching next to her, licking her shoulder. Thankfully she was able to talk the male in to leaving by telling him her boyfriend, who carried a gun, would be home soon. The male said he had been watching her for a while, and that he wanted her to like him. The male left without incident. She made a police report but no arrest was made.

There are a couple of points to consider in this story. First these types of incident can happen anywhere. The city where this happened appears to be like Mayberry. In reality, there is crime there just like everywhere else. It just doesn’t happen every day. Second, by staying calm, she was able to talk her way out of a very frightening situation. Lastly, telling him her boyfriend carried a gun probably convinced him to leave. Lastly, you never know who’s watching you. Apparently he was stalking her and following her, and she was unaware of his actions.

Hearing her story was great. I will definitely use it in all of my classes. As my talked ended, it lasted over an hour because the ladies were so engaged and asked a lot of questions; I talked about have a gun for home defense. I’ll write more about that later, but I told them that if they had a gun for home defense, it needed to be readily accessible. To this point, I told them that I have my gun next to me when I watch T.V. One of the ladies asked where I lived because it must be very dangerous to have a gun so readily accessible. I told her I lived in Cocoa, about 20 miles north of her. She replied “Well it’s not that dangerous here”. I explained to her that violent crime happens everywhere. In fact she lives about 5 miles from where the lady who shared her story lived.

I was amazed that she didn’t understand that by thinking that “it” couldn’t happen where she lived is what made her vulnerable to becoming a victim. As I explained that she needs to change her mindset, the rest of the ladies in attendance all started telling her that she could be attacked and that she need to be more aware. It felt very satisfying to hear all of the ladies reiterate what I had been saying. Hopefully, hearing her friends tell her why she should change her mindset will have the impact that I did not make.

Ladies, I had a great time, I hope to see you all again,
Stay Safe

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Civilian Tactical Firearms Class

I taught an airsoft class today for 4 ladies. We had a great time. They had all been to concealed weapons classes in the past, but are new to concealed carry. As we discussed some of the training topics, such as drawing from a concealed position, they realized that there is more to carrying a gun than dropping it in a purse.

My favorite part of the class is after I show how to parry a gun pointed in your chest while drawing your own firearm. I always laugh when I point the airsoft gun at a student and tell them I will shoot them if they don’t get off line. I can almost see their heart start racing. They were all successful. I didn’t get to shoot any of them. (Even though they probably need it).

I think they all learned a lot and now can make informed decisions about carrying a gun.

Good luck ladies


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Practice like you Play

Many people carry concealed firearms, but do not train properly to be able to use their firearm to defend themselves. Typical firearms training involves going to the range, putting your weapon in a holster on your hip (not concealed), drawing while standing still and shooting at a paper target. This type of training is comparable to driving on city streets and thinking you can compete in a NASCAR race.

Although this may be good for target practice, it is counterproductive for combat training. When the stress of a real life deadly force encounter hits, most of your marksmanship fundamentals will deteriorate.

To prepare for street encounters, first you need to practice with your firearm concealed. Next you also need to practice drawing while moving and being able to hit the target.  Then you need to add stress to the situation. Either use a timer, a partner yelling at you or any other method that will cause stress.

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Weapon Disarm

Is your training good enough?

When you purchased your gun, you may not have realized the tremendous responsibility that goes with it. Most people who own firearms don’t do any type of training with their weapons. Those that do train, probably limit their training to going to a range and shooting at paper or shooting at empty cans in a wooded lot.

This is not training, it is practice; there is a tremendous difference between the two. When it comes to self-defense and firearms, practice helps build marksmanship skills. Training builds combat skills. To get the most out of training you must induce stress into your decision-making and performance. The question is how do we do this?

I’ll give you my thoughts later. I’m interested in how you include stress into your training

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